What would you do? What places would you visit? Who would you spend your time with? How many of you have contemplated this question? I mean seriously contemplated it to the point that you have identified all of the things that you are most passionate about and maybe even created a “100 Things to Do Before I Die” list. In our crazy, busy, jam-packed lives how many of us are just going through the motions. We work because we have to, but we’re not really that excited about our job and some of us may even hate our jobs. We’re [...]

Too many people think that being self-confident means you are cocky and disrespectful. Don’t get me wrong – there are people like that – but I wouldn’t call them self-confident. In fact, when I meet someone who is totally full of themselves, I find that it’s typically a total sham to cover up some major insecurities. That’s not confidence. Self-confidence is defined as: a feeling of trust in one's abilities, qualities, and judgment. To me, it means continually striving to make yourself a better person and enjoying the journey. But not in a demeaning, condescending, belittling way to others and [...]

Have you ever woken up one day, looked around at your life and thought, “This is not my beautiful house! This is not my beautiful wife! MY GOD!...WHAT HAVE I DONE?” Yes, I’m quoting the Talking Heads, where David Byrne plays make-believe imagining himself as a suburban husband smacked with a midlife crisis. This was my life a few years ago. I was unhappy in my job (which was really bad because it was a business I created), in my relationship (which was even worse because I was married to my business partner) and just in general…my life. How did [...]

I was listening to this amazing TED talk by Esther Perel – just her accent is enough to keep you interested in what she has to say – about her research on relationships and cheating. She makes some very fascinating points on how intimacy (or long-term togetherness) inevitably kills passion. In long-term relationships, we often expect our significant other to be both best friend and sensual lover. But as Esther Perel argues, mind-blowing and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for surprise…and our need for security. Most of her research shows that everywhere where romanticism flourishes, there [...]

Reading a fascinating book today, “The Tools,” by Phil Stutz and Barry Michels. Have you ever noticed that there is a pattern that repeats itself in your relationships? Do you find yourself fighting about the same thing with a different person? Do all of your relationships end because of the same reasons…she’s too jealous, she’s too emotional and needy, she’s doesn’t appreciate me? Stutz and Michels will tell you that you’re in “The Maze.” I’ve been there – many times! The Maze is a state that you get into in your head where you become obsessed with someone who has [...]

My mother always used to say things to me like, “play it safe”, “a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush”, “that’s too risky” and a million other statements that she would come up with to protect me. But all my life I have been a risk taker most of the time, which has probably added to her gray hairs and stress level! I am just like my father who was constantly trying new business ventures, some of which worked and some didn’t. We are the kind of people that have to learn the hard way – [...]

“If you can conceive it and believe it, you can achieve it” – Napoleon Hill Belief is a powerful thing that can work for you or against you. You can reach your wildest dreams if you believe you can, or you can remain stuck in the same old routine feeling unsatisfied and unfulfilled if you believe you have no options. It’s hard to believe (no pun intended), it’s as easy as that. One of the greatest prophets, Edgar Cayce, often said, “Spirit is the life, mind is the builder, and the physical is the result.” These words describe the recipe [...]

"Learn to ask for what you want. The worst people can do is not give you what you ask for which is precisely where you were before you asked." - Peter McWilliams How many times has this happened to you? You see this beautiful woman – on the train, in the bar, at the grocery store – and you think to yourself, “Wow, she is so hot – I wish I had the balls to just walk over there and talk to her.” But what do you do instead? You watch her walk away. Another opportunity lost forever. Here’s what [...]

If I asked most people, what is the most important thing they wanted to change about themselves in order to create an ideal life, I would hear the following answers: 1) I want to be healthy (thin); 2) I want a relationship (be happy); or 3) I want to be rich or have more money (have freedom). Most people fall into one of these categories: fat, lonely or broke…the three things that seem to stop people in their tracks from accomplishing their wildest goals and dreams. And it seems they all intertwine. I’m too fat for anyone to want to [...]

I am going to teach you how to LOVE rejection. By the time I am done with you, you will CRAVE it and seek it out. Yes, I know you think I’m crazy, but hear me out. About 10 years ago, I worked for a very successful, well-known network marketing company. The personal development and sales training I went through with this company was incredible and invaluable. I credit it for my ability to start my own company and be hugely successful in sales. I learned how to build a mindset that focused on being relentlessly positive, never taking it [...]

Another relationship down the drain. More time spent hurting, wondering why it didn’t work out, and dreading having to “go back out there” again. Why do I keep attracting the wrong person? Is this the question you’re asking yourself, yet again? It could be because you haven’t thought about dating with a strategic plan in mind! How do you accomplish any goal in life? You certainly don’t just throw shit at the wall and hope something sticks. You have a clear goal or outcome in mind and you create a detailed action plan of steps to reach that goal. You [...]

One day last summer I woke up in the middle of the night with my heart racing and skipping beats. I thought I might seriously be having a heart attack. That only made matters worse as my anxiety increased along with my heart rate. Most people probably would’ve called an ambulance, but I tried to think rationally about whether or not I really needed medical attention and my intuition told me no. So, I spent the remainder of the night just trying to breathe, relax and work through it. I finally was able to fall asleep and I woke up with a normal heart rhythm. It would be nice if the story ended there.